You may remember when all the hype started about the 'New Moon' vampire film.
s started reading the teenage fantasy story book series that they came from...and became obsessed.
After weeks of niggling I succumbed and started reading the first one too. Then I read them all... back to back... in every spare minute I had. And embarrassed as I felt about this, I admit, I enjoyed the escapism.
s read them all twice, three times then followed the fanzine vampire blogs for a while. You might have seen them. Its where fans of the book write missing chapters and alternate endings using the same characters and putting their own spin on them.
I wasn't interested but s read these vampire fanzines for days, weeks, months until she stumbled across some more fruity stories. Vampire porn. s wanted me to read them too but I was a bit of a prude. She said that they were a bit of fun, excitement and harmless. I was more than a bit sceptical even scathing and made jokes about her interest in it to cover my own shyness.
After a little while s followed a link and discovered a BDSM website.
I don't think it is exaggerating to say that our world has been turned upside down and given a good shake.
If you had told me I would be writing a blog about BDSM i wouldn't even have known what that meant. In all honesty I believe I am only at the start of a long journey of discovery into myself, my partner and the realm of BDSM. I hope that writing about it can be some help on this journey.
One thing I can say with certainty is that Vampire porn is not going to be enough to hit s's spot any more.
Welcome to Blogging!
ReplyDeleteI hope that it helps you in your journey as it has helped me in mine.
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Welcome to the blogging and BDSM community. I hope it's a great experience for both of you as you begin this journey.
ReplyDeleteIf you don't mind me giving my two cents worth, remember that what counts is what works for the two of you. There's no formula. What you read in other blogs may not work for the two of you. Remember, this is not a contest with other couples in the lifestyle. It's for your enjoyment.
And you have the tougher job in the relationship. She just has to submit. You have to take charge and insist she obey to bring out her submissive side. And you should push her limits. She may be more submissive than even she realizes. On the other hand, you want to stick with what works for both of you.
Good luck on your journey and I hope you both find much joy and happiness in the lifestyle.
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